Wednesday, May 2, 2012

How To Move On When Shit Happens


I've always been the type of person to, as I say, forget shit and move on.

When something bad happens, when someone insults me, yes it hurts, but it doesn't have to control my life, my actions, or my mindset. I think latched onto this type of indifferent attitude because, in contrast, my mom focuses almost entirely on what other people say or do when it affects her. That's not to say that how she reacts is bad or worse than how I do it; it's just different. (Love you, Mom!)

If you need a little coaching, then read on...

1. Feel the Hurt
Let yourself be insulted, get angry, get sad, stomp your foot, cry, whatever, but briefly. Give yourself one minute or five or a half-hour to be totally and completely emotional. You're not a robot; you feel emotions, so feel them, but don't get caught up in them.


2. Calm Down & Divert Your Attention
Do whatever you need to to calm down or divert your attention from what happened. If someone insulted you, walk away and laugh. If you hit someone else's car, take some deep breaths and know that you're not the first person to get into a car accident. Close your eyes and count backwards from thirty -- you'll be too focused on the numbers to think about what happened. Do some yoga or kickboxing. Watch your favorite movie or read your favorite book. Drink a cup of tea. Talk to a friend.

3. Move On!
Bad things are always going to happen and people are always going to be rude. That's life. You can't let every little thing control you and take over your thoughts, or your whole life will be dictated by other people. Instead, you should be focusing on the things you love! Like cake, puppies, photography, hanging out with friends, dancing in the rain, or whatever you like.

(Picture via QuotesNSayings & Starcasm)

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8 comments:

  1. Such a true quote. I think everyone has a hard time letting things go, but it is so much healthier to not hold grudges and burden yourself with negative thoughts. Life's too short!

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    1. So true -- life's too short to be angry all the time!

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  2. great tips, its so important to let things go and move on. You always feel a bit better when the little things do affect you anymore.

    xo erica

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  3. this is awesome! i am terrible at moving on. I am so emotional and get caught up in my feelings and how people act, but that's life as a scorpio. This woman at my job is such a bitch to me all the time! i'll have to tell you about her when we hang out next. I'll need to remember this when i have to work with her.

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    1. That sucks! Sorry she's mean to you! You just have to remember that it's because of her and not you that she's like that.

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  4. Pretty great tips. I always try to just forget and move on too. Sometimes easier said than done.

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